It is difficult to imagine a more profoundly intimate transaction – a woman bearing a child for another family. And it’s equally difficult to imagine a transaction laced with more minefields, both ethical and emotional.
One of these future minefields has been when some of the children of surrogate relationships have reached an age where they have protested their origins. They call themselves ‘genetic orphans’ and have demanded to know information on their biological parents and families. In fact, some Canadian provinces have changed their laws to require such disclosure. Would you mitigate the chances of this ‘genealogical bewilderment’ happening in the future by telling your child at an appropriate age how they were conceived? Or would you keep it to yourself worrying that it might change how they felt about their very identity.